Comments for Simply Do You. http://simplydoyou.com If you were You, who would You be? Mon, 07 Dec 2009 19:02:28 -0600 hourly 1 Comment on When the Love of Your Life Leaves by Kimberly Virdure-King http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-3830 Kimberly Virdure-King Mon, 07 Dec 2009 19:02:28 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-3830 Your situation does seem agonizing Jen. I can't imagine how it would feel to believe my one and only Love has rejected me. The key word is believe. If you decide there is no one else in this world for you, you will live that belief alone. The way we live life is based on our perceptions of what's possible for ourselves. I don't know what scientific basis you've chosen to sit upon, but I do know that enduring, reciprocal, respectful love is awaiting you on the other side of this pain. It might be with the one who just rejected you, or you might just connect with someone else. Enduring. Reciprocal. Respectful. Love. True love is unconditional; but relationships aren't built on unconditional love alone. Committing yourself to relating to another is what bonds you and enables you to emerge from any storm stronger, wiser, evolved and together. Love stands by you when times are tough. Love is right there with you're at your lowest. Love gives when you've nothing to give back. Love sees your beauty when you're at your worst. Imagine a mutually unconditional and committed love. As time passes, you might find the love of your life returning. This just may not be the time for relationship for them. In the meantime, you're experiencing an awesome opportunity to further define what it is you want from your connections, and what love feels, looks and smells like to you. If you choose to believe this Love was your one and only, once in a life time shot, at least you have experienced what true love means to you. Many live a lifetime and never truly know... May your pain propel you to previously unimaginable heights of empowerment and understanding. Your situation does seem agonizing Jen. I can’t imagine how it would feel to believe my one and only Love has rejected me. The key word is believe. If you decide there is no one else in this world for you, you will live that belief alone.

The way we live life is based on our perceptions of what’s possible for ourselves.

I don’t know what scientific basis you’ve chosen to sit upon, but I do know that enduring, reciprocal, respectful love is awaiting you on the other side of this pain. It might be with the one who just rejected you, or you might just connect with someone else.

Enduring. Reciprocal. Respectful. Love.

True love is unconditional; but relationships aren’t built on unconditional love alone. Committing yourself to relating to another is what bonds you and enables you to emerge from any storm stronger, wiser, evolved and together. Love stands by you when times are tough. Love is right there with you’re at your lowest. Love gives when you’ve nothing to give back. Love sees your beauty when you’re at your worst.

Imagine a mutually unconditional and committed love.

As time passes, you might find the love of your life returning. This just may not be the time for relationship for them. In the meantime, you’re experiencing an awesome opportunity to further define what it is you want from your connections, and what love feels, looks and smells like to you.

If you choose to believe this Love was your one and only, once in a life time shot, at least you have experienced what true love means to you. Many live a lifetime and never truly know…

May your pain propel you to previously unimaginable heights of empowerment and understanding.

]]> Comment on When the Love of Your Life Leaves by Jen http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-3823 Jen Thu, 26 Nov 2009 20:22:46 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-3823 I'm sorry, but I have to fundamentally disagree with your post. I am in the unfortunate position of having 'found' the love of my life again, after 26 years. I have been essentially rejected, and of course it has been an agonizing process. There are a few reasons I don't agree with what you are espousing here... True love is not a 'committment'. True love is unconditional. This I know by my own example. This is further supported by your simplistic recommendation to 'think nasty thoughts' about them. I harbor no ill will towards the person I love, though it has turned out to be other than what I had hoped. There is, in actuality, a scientific basis for what I'm going through...So regardless of how many people are on the planet, this person will always be the one for me. The reason is that young love tends to 'imprint' on the brain, rather like a mother/child type bonding. So, for me, this person, this set of feelings cannot be replicated. This has unequivocably been the most painful thing I've experienced in my lifetime, but would I trade it and not know real love? No. I’m sorry, but I have to fundamentally disagree with your post. I am in the unfortunate position of having ‘found’ the love of my life again, after 26 years. I have been essentially rejected, and of course it has been an agonizing process.
There are a few reasons I don’t agree with what you are espousing here…
True love is not a ‘committment’. True love is unconditional. This I know by my own example. This is further supported by your simplistic recommendation to ‘think nasty thoughts’ about them. I harbor no ill will towards the person I love, though it has turned out to be other than what I had hoped.
There is, in actuality, a scientific basis for what I’m going through…So regardless of how many people are on the planet, this person will always be the one for me. The reason is that young love tends to ‘imprint’ on the brain, rather like a mother/child type bonding. So, for me, this person, this set of feelings cannot be replicated.
This has unequivocably been the most painful thing I’ve experienced in my lifetime, but would I trade it and not know real love? No.

]]> Comment on Simply Me by Kimberly Virdure-King http://simplydoyou.com/?page_id=2&cpage=1#comment-3809 Kimberly Virdure-King Wed, 14 Oct 2009 16:19:13 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?page_id=2#comment-3809 Wow. You've touched my heart Flora... I'm teary-eyed and smiling! Thank you. Wow. You’ve touched my heart Flora… I’m teary-eyed and smiling! Thank you.

]]> Comment on When the Love of Your Life Leaves by Kimberly Virdure-King http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-3808 Kimberly Virdure-King Wed, 14 Oct 2009 16:17:29 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-3808 Thank you Blue. I'm honored to have helped you and wish you well. Now go and mingle with the other 6 billion souls who share this world with you! Thank you Blue. I’m honored to have helped you and wish you well. Now go and mingle with the other 6 billion souls who share this world with you!

]]> Comment on When the Love of Your Life Leaves by Blue http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-3795 Blue Tue, 06 Oct 2009 00:57:58 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-3795 such amazing words... all which help me through this. thank you, and bless you. such amazing words… all which help me through this. thank you, and bless you.

]]> Comment on Simply Me by Flora Moody-Wiley http://simplydoyou.com/?page_id=2&cpage=1#comment-3539 Flora Moody-Wiley Wed, 02 Sep 2009 14:35:26 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?page_id=2#comment-3539 Kim, Being someone whose known you since you were a little girl, I can truthfully say that I always knew you were special....very deep in your thoughts....saw you make mistakes but somehow always knew you had what it took to recover.....you were a child with a mature spirit....regardless of our age differences, we were always able to talk....you have evolved into such a lady and I'm not surprised at all at how deep you are....I'm proud to know you and hope that something I have said or done has helped shape and/or mold you into the woman you've become man.....big smile.....(I read paragraph 7 over and over again..whew!) Kim,

Being someone whose known you since you were a little girl, I can truthfully say that I always knew you were special….very deep in your thoughts….saw you make mistakes but somehow always knew you had what it took to recover…..you were a child with a mature spirit….regardless of our age differences, we were always able to talk….you have evolved into such a lady and I’m not surprised at all at how deep you are….I’m proud to know you and hope that something I have said or done has helped shape and/or mold you into the woman you’ve become man…..big smile…..(I read paragraph 7 over and over again..whew!)

]]> Comment on Simply Me by Roberta A. Johnson http://simplydoyou.com/?page_id=2&cpage=1#comment-3064 Roberta A. Johnson Sun, 19 Jul 2009 05:45:29 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?page_id=2#comment-3064 I like your writings and totally agree with them. My "old" brain may have to stop and think about what you are saying but eventually I get it. I will let your old friends in Indianapolis know about this site. I like your writings and totally agree with them. My “old” brain may have to stop and think about what you are saying but eventually I get it. I will let your old friends in Indianapolis know about this site.

]]> Comment on What Does Simply Do You Mean? by Badness http://simplydoyou.com/?p=495&cpage=1#comment-2464 Badness Thu, 25 Jun 2009 06:31:30 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=495#comment-2464 I think this whole new trend of "doing you" has led to a self- centered and self-absorbed culture that is eventually going to be the down fall of society. The "imma do me" mentality is a MAJOR contributor to the downfall of society and American culture. People have gone so far in caring ONLY themselves and their (immediate) wants and alleged needs (because most people do not really need the things they think they need) that now its like "anything goes" and everything is acceptable as long as it makes the person happy, pleased or feel good for the moment. So nowadays, you can walk over, screw over, cheat on, lie to, ignore, disrespect and degrade other people (in general) and now it just "is what it is" because "hey...I am just doing ME" Unfortunatley, that is the real truth behind this idealogy and a major factor in why our country is in economic ruin. Folks betta wake up. I think this whole new trend of “doing you” has led to a self- centered and self-absorbed culture that is eventually going to be the down fall of society.

The “imma do me” mentality is a MAJOR contributor to the downfall of society and American culture. People have gone so far in caring ONLY themselves and their (immediate) wants and alleged needs (because most people do not really need the things they think they need) that now its like “anything goes” and everything is acceptable as long as it makes the person happy, pleased or feel good for the moment. So nowadays, you can walk over, screw over, cheat on, lie to, ignore, disrespect and degrade other people (in general) and now it just “is what it is” because “hey…I am just doing ME”
Unfortunatley, that is the real truth behind this idealogy and a major factor in why our country is in economic ruin. Folks betta wake up.

]]> Comment on Your Acceptance Grants Permission by anonymous http://simplydoyou.com/?p=573&cpage=1#comment-1826 anonymous Thu, 28 May 2009 12:59:48 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=573#comment-1826 Your post is very insiteful. I had a manager say to me after a meeting something that is very similar. They said that "Slience equals acceptance", which is true. Thank you for the reminder and the simple steps to determine what is and is not acceptable. So many times we get caught up in day to day life that we begin to accept any and everything without even thinking about it. Great post and please keep spreading your wisdom! Your post is very insiteful. I had a manager say to me after a meeting something that is very similar. They said that “Slience equals acceptance”, which is true. Thank you for the reminder and the simple steps to determine what is and is not acceptable. So many times we get caught up in day to day life that we begin to accept any and everything without even thinking about it. Great post and please keep spreading your wisdom!

]]> Comment on Your Acceptance Grants Permission by Wifey http://simplydoyou.com/?p=573&cpage=1#comment-1825 Wifey Thu, 28 May 2009 12:48:48 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=573#comment-1825 Love this. Great advice and you are absolutely right, the fifteen minutes can make a world of difference. Winks & Smiles, Wifey Love this. Great advice and you are absolutely right, the fifteen minutes can make a world of difference.

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey

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