Comments on: When the Love of Your Life Leaves http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383 Sat, 17 Jul 2010 19:12:35 -0400 hourly 1 By: Kimberly Virdure-King http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-3830 Kimberly Virdure-King Mon, 07 Dec 2009 19:02:28 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-3830 Your situation does seem agonizing Jen. I can't imagine how it would feel to believe my one and only Love has rejected me. The key word is believe. If you decide there is no one else in this world for you, you will live that belief alone. The way we live life is based on our perceptions of what's possible for ourselves. I don't know what scientific basis you've chosen to sit upon, but I do know that enduring, reciprocal, respectful love is awaiting you on the other side of this pain. It might be with the one who just rejected you, or you might just connect with someone else. Enduring. Reciprocal. Respectful. Love. True love is unconditional; but relationships aren't built on unconditional love alone. Committing yourself to relating to another is what bonds you and enables you to emerge from any storm stronger, wiser, evolved and together. Love stands by you when times are tough. Love is right there with you're at your lowest. Love gives when you've nothing to give back. Love sees your beauty when you're at your worst. Imagine a mutually unconditional and committed love. As time passes, you might find the love of your life returning. This just may not be the time for relationship for them. In the meantime, you're experiencing an awesome opportunity to further define what it is you want from your connections, and what love feels, looks and smells like to you. If you choose to believe this Love was your one and only, once in a life time shot, at least you have experienced what true love means to you. Many live a lifetime and never truly know... May your pain propel you to previously unimaginable heights of empowerment and understanding. Your situation does seem agonizing Jen. I can’t imagine how it would feel to believe my one and only Love has rejected me. The key word is believe. If you decide there is no one else in this world for you, you will live that belief alone.

The way we live life is based on our perceptions of what’s possible for ourselves.

I don’t know what scientific basis you’ve chosen to sit upon, but I do know that enduring, reciprocal, respectful love is awaiting you on the other side of this pain. It might be with the one who just rejected you, or you might just connect with someone else.

Enduring. Reciprocal. Respectful. Love.

True love is unconditional; but relationships aren’t built on unconditional love alone. Committing yourself to relating to another is what bonds you and enables you to emerge from any storm stronger, wiser, evolved and together. Love stands by you when times are tough. Love is right there with you’re at your lowest. Love gives when you’ve nothing to give back. Love sees your beauty when you’re at your worst.

Imagine a mutually unconditional and committed love.

As time passes, you might find the love of your life returning. This just may not be the time for relationship for them. In the meantime, you’re experiencing an awesome opportunity to further define what it is you want from your connections, and what love feels, looks and smells like to you.

If you choose to believe this Love was your one and only, once in a life time shot, at least you have experienced what true love means to you. Many live a lifetime and never truly know…

May your pain propel you to previously unimaginable heights of empowerment and understanding.

]]> By: Jen http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-3823 Jen Thu, 26 Nov 2009 20:22:46 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-3823 I'm sorry, but I have to fundamentally disagree with your post. I am in the unfortunate position of having 'found' the love of my life again, after 26 years. I have been essentially rejected, and of course it has been an agonizing process. There are a few reasons I don't agree with what you are espousing here... True love is not a 'committment'. True love is unconditional. This I know by my own example. This is further supported by your simplistic recommendation to 'think nasty thoughts' about them. I harbor no ill will towards the person I love, though it has turned out to be other than what I had hoped. There is, in actuality, a scientific basis for what I'm going through...So regardless of how many people are on the planet, this person will always be the one for me. The reason is that young love tends to 'imprint' on the brain, rather like a mother/child type bonding. So, for me, this person, this set of feelings cannot be replicated. This has unequivocably been the most painful thing I've experienced in my lifetime, but would I trade it and not know real love? No. I’m sorry, but I have to fundamentally disagree with your post. I am in the unfortunate position of having ‘found’ the love of my life again, after 26 years. I have been essentially rejected, and of course it has been an agonizing process.
There are a few reasons I don’t agree with what you are espousing here…
True love is not a ‘committment’. True love is unconditional. This I know by my own example. This is further supported by your simplistic recommendation to ‘think nasty thoughts’ about them. I harbor no ill will towards the person I love, though it has turned out to be other than what I had hoped.
There is, in actuality, a scientific basis for what I’m going through…So regardless of how many people are on the planet, this person will always be the one for me. The reason is that young love tends to ‘imprint’ on the brain, rather like a mother/child type bonding. So, for me, this person, this set of feelings cannot be replicated.
This has unequivocably been the most painful thing I’ve experienced in my lifetime, but would I trade it and not know real love? No.

]]> By: Kimberly Virdure-King http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-3808 Kimberly Virdure-King Wed, 14 Oct 2009 16:17:29 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-3808 Thank you Blue. I'm honored to have helped you and wish you well. Now go and mingle with the other 6 billion souls who share this world with you! Thank you Blue. I’m honored to have helped you and wish you well. Now go and mingle with the other 6 billion souls who share this world with you!

]]> By: Blue http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-3795 Blue Tue, 06 Oct 2009 00:57:58 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-3795 such amazing words... all which help me through this. thank you, and bless you. such amazing words… all which help me through this. thank you, and bless you.

]]> By: Kimberly Virdure-King http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-113 Kimberly Virdure-King Fri, 27 Mar 2009 15:59:04 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-113 I agree Sapphire. Please share your thoughts... I agree Sapphire. Please share your thoughts…

]]> By: Kimberly Virdure-King http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-112 Kimberly Virdure-King Fri, 27 Mar 2009 15:56:02 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-112 So true Felicia. You can have faith in your beloved's love and intentions, but you can't control future events. All relationships eventually come to an end - sometimes against the will of both. The constant in our lives is the relationship we have with ourselves, which is more fulfilling and powerful than what we could ever have with another. It is our healthy connection to Self that makes loving another possible. So true Felicia. You can have faith in your beloved’s love and intentions, but you can’t control future events. All relationships eventually come to an end – sometimes against the will of both. The constant in our lives is the relationship we have with ourselves, which is more fulfilling and powerful than what we could ever have with another. It is our healthy connection to Self that makes loving another possible.

]]> By: Sapphire http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-106 Sapphire Fri, 27 Mar 2009 04:58:00 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-106 Your words are like poetry. Great post! Although, the phrase "the love of your life fits into your life almost seamlessly", I think could spark an interesting debate. <abbr><em>Sapphire’s last blog post..<a href="http://resplendentlife.wordpress.com/2009/03/27/my-mother-in-law-is-dying/" rel="nofollow">My Mother-in-Law is DYING!!!</a></abbr></em> Your words are like poetry. Great post!
Although, the phrase “the love of your life fits into your life almost seamlessly”, I think could spark an interesting debate.

Sapphire’s last blog post..My Mother-in-Law is DYING!!!

]]> By: Christie-A Work In Progress http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-98 Christie-A Work In Progress Wed, 25 Mar 2009 08:46:59 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-98 You never cease to amaze me with your words, girl! Beautiful post! <abbr><em>Christie-A Work In Progress’s last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/christiecrowder/~3/B3C6110h-gM/overdue-overwhelming-gratitude.html" rel="nofollow">Overdue Overwhelming Gratitude</a></abbr></em> You never cease to amaze me with your words, girl! Beautiful post!

Christie-A Work In Progress’s last blog post..Overdue Overwhelming Gratitude

]]> By: Felicia - I Complete me http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383&cpage=1#comment-96 Felicia - I Complete me Wed, 25 Mar 2009 02:58:35 +0000 http://simplydoyou.com/?p=383#comment-96 You should be the love of your own life. People come and go for whatever reason. We shouldn't put so much faith into a person. We were living before they came a long and will still live after. <abbr><em>Felicia - I Complete me’s last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ICompleteMe/~3/jrt6QNXJh4Y/" rel="nofollow">I Want to Hear From You!</a></abbr></em> You should be the love of your own life. People come and go for whatever reason. We shouldn’t put so much faith into a person. We were living before they came a long and will still live after.

Felicia – I Complete me’s last blog post..I Want to Hear From You!

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