Your Acceptance Grants Permission

What is it that you don’t want, yet have been accepting from yourself? If you’re granting procrastination the space and time to become a part of your identity, you’ve accepted a reality that doesn’t reflect your potential.  If you’ve decided you don’t have enough left over to save, you’ve given yourself permission to be broke.  You’ve granted yourself permission to be unhealthy if you’ve accepted another deep fried filled day without exercise.

What you’ve accepted in yourself, has given your circumstances permission to be.

What is it that you don’t want, yet have been accepting from others? You criticize and may even shame in an attempt to make them change their ways; only to end up with more of what you don’t want.  What makes you think you possess the power or the right to dictate another’s path anyway?  As no Soul on this Earth was created especially for you, not one person will be exactly the way you believe they should be.

The treatment you’ve accepted from others has given your circumstances permission to be.  While you can’t change them, you can change the way you honor your Self.

Accept More Of What Represents You.

When an area of life becomes off balance with ugly, weird or depressing situations, it’s time to inject more of who you are into your actions.  Do you have 15 minutes to take a giant leap in a more fulfilling direction? Come on now, yes you do – you’re surfing the Web!

Grab a pen, get some paper and …

1. Define what you will no longer accept (boundaries).
   In other words, get to know who you are. Any situation that makes you feel guilty, shameful, ugly, disengaged, remorseful and stuck in a state of wanting something more is an indicator that you’re not simply doing you. Write down what you will no longer accept, from yourself or others:

   I will no longer accept [fill in the blank].

2. For each boundary, define the reasons you will no longer accept what you don’t want. You can’t write: “because I don’t want to”; and you can’t fall into making others responsible for your stuff. Get down to the core of the loveliness you and I both know you deserve.I will no longer accept [fill in the blank] because…
3. Write out exactly how you will honor the limits defined by your boundaries (this is the hardest and most rewarding aspect of simply doing you).If [fill in the blank] happens I will consistently [insert the action that leads to a life that honors who you are].

So Now What?

Redefining what you’re willing to accept and permit will impact the folks around you. Share your boundaries with trusted friends, lovers and family in the spirit of “I’m working on creating more of what I want and need…”, not “You make me sick so here’s what I’m not accepting from you any more.”  Remember, you cannot hold others responsible for what you’ve chosen to accept.

This process might be complex and maybe even gut wrenching as you come to face what it is about You that’s been impeding your progress. You won’t have the luxury of blaming other people for the undesirables you’ve accepted and given permission to flourish.  You’ll be defining how you will take responsibility for your own actions and outcomes.  You’ll be harnessing your power to direct your own life.

The act of writing your boundaries down will provide a powerful release, even if you’re not quite ready to take action right away. Each step, no matter how small, will infiltrate your being with a sense of empowerment as you realize just how in control you are of your life.  Allow the inspirational uplift of progress to permeate your existence – you’ll be rewarded with more of what you actually want to experience in your lifetime.

Just start out with the 15 minutes, you’ll be empowered and inspired to take action – I promise.  Simply do you!